“Change the self image and you change the personality and behavior”。 Maxwell Maltz explains how to change your self-imagine with your mind。 He offers practice exercise to help with relaxation and visualization。 One of my favorite chapters is chapter 2 where he talks about animals not being able to select their goals, their goals are preset。 But man on the other hand can select their goals and create the life he wants。
Adam,
Not quite sure what I think of this book。 I think I’ll reread this one。 It tasted too much like Think and Grow Rich, but it had enough science backing it up that it felt authentic。 Some of it really felt far fetched, but at the same time I had a really big realization about how I have an automatic failure mechanism in my mindset that I have never dealt with but that I can basically track back twenty years。 So I’ll reread it and see if I can gain some more perspective on it。
Hunt Phan,
Every one should read it。
Ashkan Safikhani,
ببخش تا آزاد شوی。
Megan,
I love the advice given but it was super repetitive and hard to keep reading。 I feel like it could have been done in a fraction of the pages :/
Junie,
Over the past thirty years I have thoroughly enjoyed rereading this book。Every two or three years when I feel I need some new or clearer direction I pick it up。Each time I read it I always walk away with something new & exciting to help me。There are many profound & valuable messages, well thought out advice and an infinite amount of strategies; the fun is deciding which one should I pick。This book will help you if you need it。 It is a worthy read and a deep study if you permit it but it does req Over the past thirty years I have thoroughly enjoyed rereading this book。Every two or three years when I feel I need some new or clearer direction I pick it up。Each time I read it I always walk away with something new & exciting to help me。There are many profound & valuable messages, well thought out advice and an infinite amount of strategies; the fun is deciding which one should I pick。This book will help you if you need it。 It is a worthy read and a deep study if you permit it but it does require your time and everlasting patience, enjoy your learning。 。。。more
Isra Sravenheart,
Very interesting。 Enjoyed it。
Zoli0506,
This a really inspirational book, helped me to change my thinking what is possible and what isn't。 This a really inspirational book, helped me to change my thinking what is possible and what isn't。 。。。more
Andre-Louis,
"Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstance。" "Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstance。" 。。。more
Joaquim Magalhães,
This was the best book i've read so far。 The concepts and the approach are brilliant and this book has helped me a lot to improve myself and the way i see things。 The importance of your self-image should be taught in school because it's a crucial fact to how you live your life。 Highly recommend。 This was the best book i've read so far。 The concepts and the approach are brilliant and this book has helped me a lot to improve myself and the way i see things。 The importance of your self-image should be taught in school because it's a crucial fact to how you live your life。 Highly recommend。 。。。more
Carlos Villarroel,
Excellent!A really good book, It will make you think about a lot of things, the point of view of the writer in so many different topics will help you understand and create your own opinion。
Lukasz Rarog,
It's on my Top 5 list of non fiction book ever written。 It explains the role of self image in our lives, and the profound impact of our thoughts。 It also teaches us how we can make a change and totally transform our experiences。 It's on my Top 5 list of non fiction book ever written。 It explains the role of self image in our lives, and the profound impact of our thoughts。 It also teaches us how we can make a change and totally transform our experiences。 。。。more
Rachel,
Wow an absolute goldmine of profound spiritual and scientific insight into self image (although even my most impassioned accolades cannot possibly credit the power of all that is contained within)。 This is a book that must be read innumerable times - it will change your life。
Matt Ney,
Provides solid advice and exercises to practice in daily life, even if most comes across as obvious regurgitation of virtually all other self-help books。
MonkeAppreciator,
I have only been implementing the exercises that this book encourages for a few days, but i have already experienced noticeable changes。 I cannot wait to see how significant the changes will be in twenty-one days。
Sina,
One of the best books I have ever read and listened many times。 Highly recommended book
Evan,
This book went pretty deep, and I'm still digesting some of its content。 I know I am going to have to re-read some parts。 This book had a really big influence on me。 One concept that really stuck with me is the idea of "disinhibiting" yourself。 I have read countless self-help books over the past few years, but few stuck with me like some of the passages in this book。 I have always been the type to "over-think" and "over-worry," and it's a super difficult habit to change。 The idea of becoming "di This book went pretty deep, and I'm still digesting some of its content。 I know I am going to have to re-read some parts。 This book had a really big influence on me。 One concept that really stuck with me is the idea of "disinhibiting" yourself。 I have read countless self-help books over the past few years, but few stuck with me like some of the passages in this book。 I have always been the type to "over-think" and "over-worry," and it's a super difficult habit to change。 The idea of becoming "disinhibited" and leaving everything (like your fears, worries, decisions, etc。) to your "subconscious" was really powerful for me and really made me re-think how I act on a day-to-day basis。 Many self-help and positive thinking books suggest similar philosophies, from Stoicism's focus on not worrying about things outside of your control to Eckhart Tolle's emphasis on focusing only on the present at all times; however, the way this book explained how to truly use the power of your subconscious mind was just more impactful。 The book uses the metaphor of a "self-guiding" missile to represent the way our subconscious mind works: when it goes off course, it fixes itself - it doesn't need any outside interference。 In fact, it's designed to constantly adjust its course; it finds its way on its own。 One line really stood out to me: "Don't think before you speak。 Speak before you think。。。Don't think before you act。 Act before you think。" Just hearing that line was so powerful for me, and I realized that so much of my life has been hindered by over-thinking, over-reacting, and worrying about problems that never happen。 While in some ways, the book's emphasis on utilizing the power of your subconscious mind is nothing new。 However, this book is one of the best at addressing how to do it。 I wish it provided more detailed descriptions of the visualizations it suggests; however, in my opinion, this book is really one of the most essential psychology books out there。 It certainly warrants a second, and probably a third, reading。 。。。more
Mustafa Hakan Örskaya,
This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it, click here。 KEY POINTS TO REMEMBERConscious effort inhibits and jams the automatic creative mechanism。 The reason some people are self-conscious and awkward in social situations is simply that they are too consciously concerned about doing the right thing。 They are painfully conscious of every move they make。 Every action is thought out。 We speak of such persons as inhibited, and rightly so。 But it would be more true were we to say that the person has inhibited his own creative mechanism。 If these people co KEY POINTS TO REMEMBERConscious effort inhibits and jams the automatic creative mechanism。 The reason some people are self-conscious and awkward in social situations is simply that they are too consciously concerned about doing the right thing。 They are painfully conscious of every move they make。 Every action is thought out。 We speak of such persons as inhibited, and rightly so。 But it would be more true were we to say that the person has inhibited his own creative mechanism。 If these people could let go, stop trying, not care, and give no thought to the matter of their behavior, they could act creatively, spontaneously, and be themselves。Your Creative Mechanism cannot work tomorrow。 It can only function in the present。 Make long-range plans for tomorrow。 But don’t try to live in tomorrow, or in the past。 Creative living means responding and reacting to environment spontaneously。 Your creative mechanism can respond appropriately and successfully to present environment, only if you have your full attention on present environment, and give it information concerning what is happening now。 Plan all you want to for the future。 Prepare for it。 But don’t worry about how you will react tomorrow, or even five minutes from now。 Your creative mechanism will react appropriately in the “now” if you pay attention to what is happening now。 It will do the same tomorrow。 It cannot react successfully to what may happen, but to what is happening。Stop letting things push you around。 You are letting outward events and other people dictate to you how you shall feel and how you shall react。 You are acting as an obedient slave and obeying promptly when some event or circumstance signals to you。Form the habit of keeping goal-oriented all the time, regardless of what happens。 Do this by practicing a positive aggressive attitude, both in actual everyday situations that come up, and also in your imagination。 See yourself in your imagination taking positive, intelligent action toward solving a problem or reaching a goal。 See yourself reacting to threats, not by running away or evading them, but by meeting them, dealing with them, grappling with them in an aggressive and intelligent manner。Often the difference between a successful man and a failure is not one’s better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on his ideas, to take a calculated risk and to act。 A step in the wrong direction is better than staying on the spot all your life。Many potential heroes, both men and women, live out their lives in self-doubt。 If they only knew they had these deep resources, it would help give them the self-reliance to meet most problems。 You’ve got the resources。 But you never know you’ve got them until you act and give them a chance to work for you。The greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of making one。Life becomes worthwhile when you have worthwhile goals。 Emptiness is a symptom that you are not living creatively。 You either have no goal that is important enough to you, or you are not using your talents and efforts in striving toward an important goal。 The individual who is actively engaged in a struggle, or in striving toward an important goal, does not come up with pessimistic philosophies concerning the meaninglessness or the futility of life。The failure mechanism is self-perpetuating, unless we step in and break the vicious cycle。 Emptiness, when once experienced, can become a way of avoiding effort, work, and responsibility。 It becomes an excuse, or a justification, for noncreative living。 If all is vanity, if there is no new thing under the sun, if there is no joy to be found anyway, why bother? Why try? If life is just a treadmill, if we work eight hours a day so we can afford a house to sleep in, so we can sleep eight hours to become rested for another day’s work, why get excited about it? All these intellectual reasons vanish and we do experience joy and satisfaction however, when once we get off the treadmill, stop going around and around in circles, and select some goal worth striving for and go after it。Excessive carefulness, or being too anxious not to make an error, is a form of excessive negative feedback。 As in the case of the stutterer, who attempts to anticipate possible errors and be overly careful not to make them, the result is inhibition and deterioration of performance。 Excessive carefulness and anxiety are close kin。 Both have to do with too much concern for possible failure, or doing the wrong thing, and making too much of a conscious effort to do right。If you are among the millions who suffer unhappiness and failure because of inhibition, you need to deliberately practice disinhibition。 You need to practice being less careful, less concerned, less conscientious。 You need to practice speaking before you think instead of thinking before you speak。Don’t wonder in advance what you are going to say。 Just open your mouth and say it。 Improvise as you go along。 Don’t plan。 Don’t think before you act。 Act and correct your actions as you go along。 This advice may seem radical, yet it is actually the way all servo-mechanisms must work。 A torpedo does not think out all its errors in advance, and attempt to correct them in advance。 It must act first then correct any errors that may occur。Stop criticizing yourself。 The inhibited person indulges in self-critical analysis continually。 After each action, however simple, he says to himself, “I wonder if I should have done that。” After he has gotten up courage enough to say something, he immediately says to himself, “Maybe I shouldn’t have said that。 Maybe the other person will take it the wrong way。” Stop all this tearing yourself apart。 Useful and beneficial feedback works subconsciously, spontaneously, and automatically。 Conscious self-criticism, self-analysis, and introspection are good and useful if undertaken perhaps once a year。 But as a continual, moment-by-moment, day-by-day sort of second-guessing yourself it is defeating。 Watch for this self-criticism, pull yourself up short and stop it。 Make a habit of speaking louder than usual。 Inhibited people are notoriously soft-spoken。 Raise the volume of your voice。 You don’t have to shout at people and use an angry tone, just consciously practice speaking louder than usual。 Loud talk in itself is a powerful disinhibitor。Let people know when you like them。 The inhibited personality is as afraid of expressing good feelings as bad ones。 If he expresses love, he is afraid it will be judged sentimentality; if he expresses friendship, he is afraid it will be considered fawning or apple-polishing。 If he compliments someone, he is afraid the other will think him superficial, or suspect an ulterior motive。 Totally ignore these negative feedback signals。 Compliment at least three people every day。 If you like what someone is doing, or wearing, or saying, let them know it。 And if you’re married, just say to your spouse, “I love you” at least twice a day。The secret lies in the attitude of fearlessly accepting the challenge, and confidently expending our strength。 This means maintaining an aggressive, goal-directed attitude, rather than a defensive, evasive, negative one: No matter what happens, I can handle it, or I can see it through, rather than I hope nothing happens。First of all, it is important to understand that failure feelings, fear, anxiety, lack of self-confidence, do not spring from some heavenly oracle。 They are not written in the stars。 They are not holy gospel。 Nor are they intimations of a set and decided fate that means that failure is decreed and decided。 They originate from your own mind。 They are indicative only of attitudes of mind within you, not of external facts that are rigged against you。 They mean only that you are underestimating your own abilities, overestimating and exaggerating the nature of the difficulty before you, and that you are reactivating memories of past failures rather than memories of past successes。 That is all that they mean and all that they signify。 They do not pertain to or represent the truth concerning future events, but only your own mental attitude about the future event。 。。。more
Andre Borges,
Basically, this 1960's book is the blueprint and encapsulates all the fundamental principles of all the self-help books written until our present time。 I found out really interesting that this book was written by a plastic surgeon with a lot of experience on the effects of superficial self-image, but no psychology background, nor coaching specialization (that nowadays seems accessible to anyone, so much so, that I believe that the 🍸 worlds toughest drinking game🍹 is to get a shot every time you Basically, this 1960's book is the blueprint and encapsulates all the fundamental principles of all the self-help books written until our present time。 I found out really interesting that this book was written by a plastic surgeon with a lot of experience on the effects of superficial self-image, but no psychology background, nor coaching specialization (that nowadays seems accessible to anyone, so much so, that I believe that the 🍸 worlds toughest drinking game🍹 is to get a shot every time you have a new coach in your acquaintances) Due to my personal growth path, and also working on an EdTech company I've studied a lot about pedagogy and the effects of the perceived image。 This book encapsulates the latter giving you a large amplitude of examples as well as practical exercises to improve your own self image。 I really enjoyed the drill-down of both the "success personality" and "failure mechanism"Success : Sense of direction; Understanding, Courage, Charity, Esteem, Self-confidence, Self-acceptanceFailure: Frustation, Agressiveness, Insicurity, Loneliness, Resentment, Emptiness。 I also deeply resonated and thought about the so called "emotional scars" and how they metaphorically relate with physical scars (+1 for plastic surgeon here! :D ) Being a fan of stoic philosophy there is a lot of emotion management content that resonated with previous readings。 Of course, if you're not into the self-help-mambo-jambo-bandwaggon you might cringe with some of the suggested exercises at first, but take at least a shot to see if they help you in any fashion。 。。。more
Ahmad Sharabiani,
Psycho-Cybernetics。 A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life, Maxwell MaltzPsycho-Cybernetics is a self-help book written by Maxwell Maltz in 1960。 Happiness and success are habits。 So are failure and misery。 But negative habits can be changed--and Psycho-Cybernetics shows you how!تاریخ نخستین خوانش روز بیست و هفتم ماه ژوئن سال 2016میلادیعنوان: سایکو - سایبرنتیکس، یا، معجزه تصویر ذهنی؛ نوشته ماکسول مالتز؛ ترجمه و تفسیر و تلخیص: ا。خواجه نوری؛ گردآورنده و تنظیم کننده لیدا مشفق؛ عنوان روی جلد: معجز Psycho-Cybernetics。 A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life, Maxwell MaltzPsycho-Cybernetics is a self-help book written by Maxwell Maltz in 1960。 Happiness and success are habits。 So are failure and misery。 But negative habits can be changed--and Psycho-Cybernetics shows you how!تاریخ نخستین خوانش روز بیست و هفتم ماه ژوئن سال 2016میلادیعنوان: سایکو - سایبرنتیکس، یا، معجزه تصویر ذهنی؛ نوشته ماکسول مالتز؛ ترجمه و تفسیر و تلخیص: ا。خواجه نوری؛ گردآورنده و تنظیم کننده لیدا مشفق؛ عنوان روی جلد: معجزه تصویر ذهنی، یا، راه میانبر خودشناسی و روانکاوی؛ بی جا، بی نا، 1360؛ در 55ص؛ موضوع روانشناسی از نویسندگان ایالات متجده آمریکا - سده 20معنوان: روانشناسی ارتباط و کنترل (سایکوسیبرنتیک)؛ نویسنده: ماکسول مالتز؛ مترجمها: جمال زرهساز، بابک شمشیری؛ تهران، چاپخش؛ 1372؛ در 203ص؛ عنوان: سایکوسیبرنتیک: درس زندگی؛ اثر ماکسول مالتز؛ ترجمه مهدی قراچهداغی؛ تهران، شباهنگ، سخن، 1373؛ در 196ص؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، اسرار دانش؛ 1380؛ در 250ص؛ شابک 9646719546؛ چاپ سوم 1387؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، شباهنگ، 1390؛ در 196ص؛ شابک 9789642732227؛عنوان: سایبرنتیک روان: هدف، حرکت، بازخورد؛ ماکسول مالتز؛ ویراستار علمی دن کندی؛ با همکاری موسسه سایکو سایبرنتیک؛ مترجم حسن حقشناس، با همکاری سودابه ملکزاده؛ شیراز، ایرسا، 1386؛ در 304ص؛ شابک 9786009029808؛ چاپ دوم 1391؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، رون سنجی، 1397؛ در 6ص، و 304ص؛ شابک 9789647855259؛عنوان: سایکوسایبرنتیک جدید: علم اصلی اصلاح خود و موفقیت که زندگی سی میلیون نفر را تغییر داده است؛ نویسنده ماکسول مالتز؛ ویرایش و به روز شده توسط اس کندی و بنیاد سایکوسایبرنتیک، ترجمه فرهاد توحیدی؛ ارومیه، فرهاد توحیدی؛ 1393؛ در 7ص، و 238ص؛ شابک 9786000412616؛فهرست کتاب ترجمه جناب «فرهاد توحیدی»:؛ فصل یک: «تصور از خود: کلید شما برای زندگی بدون مرز»؛ فصل دو: «چگونه مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار درونتان را بیدار میکند»؛ فصل سه: «تخیل استارت مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار شما»؛ فصل چهار: «چگونه خود را از باورهای غلط خارج کنید»؛ فصل پنج: «چگونه در رابطه با قدرت تفکر منطقی پیشرفت کنیم»؛ فصل شش: «چگونه ریلکس شویم و اجازه دهیم مکانیسم موفقیت خودکار برایمان کار کند»؛ فصل هفت: «میتوانید عادت خوشبختی را به دست آورید»؛ فصل هشت: «اجزای شخصیت نوع موفق و چگونگی حصول به آنها»؛ فصل نه: «چگونه از فعالسازی تصادفی مکانیسم شکست خودکارتان جلوگیری کنید»؛ فصل ده: «چگونه زخمهای احساسی را برطرف کنیم و به خود یک ترمیم چهره انسانی بدهیم»؛ فصل یازده: «چگونه شخصیت واقعی خود را آزاد کنید»؛ فصل دوازده: «آرامبخشهایی خودی ای که آرامش ذهن میآورند»؛ فصل سیزده: «چگونه یک بحران را به یک فرصت اخلاقی تبدیل کنیم»؛ فصل چهارده: «چگونه آن حس پیروزی را به دست آورده و حفط کنیم»؛ فصل پانزده: «سالهای بیشتر زندگی و زندگی بیشتر در سالهای شما»؛ فصل شانزده: «داستانهای واقعی زندگیهایی که با استفاده از سایکو سایبرنتیک عوض شده اند»؛و «واژگان»؛تاریخ بهنگام رسانی 06/04/1400هجری خورشیدی؛ ا。 شربیانی 。。。more
Adrian Mazzarolo,
Really interesting book with some solid exercises。 Now I just need to not be lazy and do them!
Kathy,
I was a young teen when I read this book。 It had an enormous influence on me。 It taught me that how I think about things was vital to how I saw them。 And that changing how I think is possible。
Josué Bapeck,
The key takeaway:Your self image is a very important concept to understand as you cannot rise above the level of your current self image。 Your success in life is bound by your self image!
Sławomir,
I couldn't believe this book is so up-to-date, even 60 years after original writing。 Also, this is a rare book that you can recommend to everyone。 The only drawback - it can be sometimes a bit boring to read, but it's worth it。 I couldn't believe this book is so up-to-date, even 60 years after original writing。 Also, this is a rare book that you can recommend to everyone。 The only drawback - it can be sometimes a bit boring to read, but it's worth it。 。。。more
John Landers,
Must read!!
Eli,
Top Tier。
Ilija Vlajic,
Best book ever written。
Praveen Krishnan,
It's a very well-written book that talks about how your life is largely influenced by your thoughts。 How failures lead to failures, and how success breeds success。 But, is there a way to change the dynamic and convert failures to successes? Yes, of course, and that's by changing your thought process。 How to lead a goal-oriented life by working the mind at a sub-conscious level instead of fretting about the end result all the time? How to let go of insecurity, emptiness and other failure ridden t It's a very well-written book that talks about how your life is largely influenced by your thoughts。 How failures lead to failures, and how success breeds success。 But, is there a way to change the dynamic and convert failures to successes? Yes, of course, and that's by changing your thought process。 How to lead a goal-oriented life by working the mind at a sub-conscious level instead of fretting about the end result all the time? How to let go of insecurity, emptiness and other failure ridden thoughts to convert yourself to a success oriented approach, with positive thoughts and actions?Are thoughts alone sufficient to take you to the final destination? What is it that you want from life? How to achieve that? How do you live a life full of self-esteem and contentment?It's a great read for anyone who is trying to form a habit, for after a point in time, it's only habits that live with you forever。 This is pretty consistent with a number of books I've read in recent times that talk about the significance of forming good habits which can not only elevate your life but also lead you through the path of fulfillment。I thought it was an engrossing read as I felt that in order to do anything in life well, you need to understand your mind, and with a title like psycho-cybernetics, who wouldn't want to read a book like that? 。。。more
Sanjay Gautam,
This one is no bullshit self help。 It is, plain and simple, deeply illuminating; even life changing!I had many 'aha' moments, which is rare for these kinds of books。 This is a book from 60s; and the author was working as a plastic surgeon then。 In a nutshell the motto of the book is: do not simply add years to life, but add more life to the years! This one is no bullshit self help。 It is, plain and simple, deeply illuminating; even life changing!I had many 'aha' moments, which is rare for these kinds of books。 This is a book from 60s; and the author was working as a plastic surgeon then。 In a nutshell the motto of the book is: do not simply add years to life, but add more life to the years! 。。。more
Benjamin,
Some of the older troupes of self help books are in place and a lot of creationist lingo felt out of place, but this was a great book filled with actionable advice on how to improve the way you perceive yourself。